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The Gift of Insults


There once lived a great warrior. Though quite oldhe still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended far and wide throughout the land and many students gathered to study under him.
One day an infamous young warrior arrived at the village. He was determined to be the first man to defeat the great master. Along with his strengthhe had an uncanny ability to spot and exploit any weakness in an opponent. He would wait for his opponent to make the first movethus revealing a weaknessand then would strike with merciless force and lightning speed. No one had ever lasted with him in a match beyond the first move.

Much against the advice of his concerned studentsthe old master gladly accepted the young warrior's challenge. As the two squared off for battlethe young warrior began to hurl insults at the old master. He threw dirt and spit in his face. For hours he verbally assaulted him with every curse and insult known to mankind. But the old warrior merely stood there motionless and calm. Finallythe young warrior exhausted himself. Knowing he was defeatedhe left feeling shamed.

Somewhat disappointed that he did not fight the insolent youththe students gathered around the old master and questioned him. "How could you endure such an indignity? How did you drive him away?" 

If someone comes to give you a gift and you do not receive it,the master repliedto whom does the gift belong?

People's reactions to this story: 
The old warrior must have been thick-skinned!!!!!
I would hesitate (he who hesitates is lost) to call insults a gift, but this reminds me of child's saying, 'I'm made of rubber, you're made of glue, everything you say bounces off me and sticks to you.'

To win without violence is the greatest victory!

Reacting to insulting behavior only serves to give the insulting party EXACTLY what they want. 

Perhaps the master did accept the gift. The gift was victory. The master needed only stand there (and take it) to accept his gift.

If you do not receive someone's gift of insults, you haven't been insulted.The young whippersnapper obviously fell into his own trap. With the first insult he gave away victory to the old man by displaying his own weakness.

It's not what happens to you that matters, it's what happens in you.

This story reminds me of something I read in one of my aikido books. Two old,great masters were preparing to fight in a Kendo match, Japanese swordsmanship. When the match started, neither one moved from their fighting stance. In fact they both stayed exactly still for five minutes until the match was finally called a draw. If they made the first move it would reveal their weaknesses, and they would be defeated. Now that is awesome.

An insult is like a glass of wine. It only affects you if you accept it.

This story reminds me of the question, If a tree falls in the forestand no one is around to hear itdoes it make a noise?" The same question can be asked in this storyparaphrasing "If an insult falls on deaf earswho is insulted?"

The older warrior had no other choice but to not move and stand fast. He understood his own limitations and through his years of experience also knew his opponents strengths. He was once a young warrior too.

If I may be so crude, I'd say that our infamous young warrior" got his ass kicked."

This reminds me of my mother's words If you throw stones into a slushy puddleit is bound to splash back on you!" We are Indians (from Asia) and boy do we have thousands of such zen stories!!!"

This is one of the best illustrations of Zen stories because it illustrates a universal principle (read truth"). The setting for the story is appropriate because its lesson is a two-edged sword: there is the obvious consequence of the elder warrior refusing to accept the younger warrior's "gifts and also the more subtle but implicit idea that a gift cannot be accepted without quid pro quo. The old warrior also had gifts to bestow -- knowledge of his skill and his weakness. The younger man, because he focused only on weaknesses was blind to the older warrior's proffered gift and therefore refused it. So the elder retained his strengths while the younger went away empty-handed.

It illustrates the universal truth that whatever you give is what you receive" or "whatever goes aroundcomes around".